Hatred has a greatest impact on they who hate than who or what is being hated. Overcoming hatred is difficult because it reinforces itself and causes greater enmity to come into being. The most powerful tool one to can use in combating hatred is love. Decide to love what you hate, whether that is a person, situation, or a part of yourself. Doing so can create a profound change in your feelings and your experience. There is no room for anger, dislike, bitterness, or resentment when you are busy learning to love what you hate. The practice of loving what you hate will transform and shift your emotions from black emotions (hate) to white emotions (love), because there is no room for hatred in a space occupied by love.
It is difficult to forgo judging, and seek the good in situations that seem to cause you pain or anger. In deciding to love what you hate, you become one less person adding negativity to the universe. On the simplest level, loving what you hate can help you enjoy your life more. On a more complex level, loving what you hate sets you free because you disengage yourself from the hatred that is weighing down your soul. Responding with love to people radiating hatred nullifies their negative energy. You empower yourself by not letting their negatives enter your personal space. Rather than lowering yourself to the level of their hatred, you give the other person an opportunity to rise above their feelings and meet you on the field of love.
Gandhi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Loving what you hate sends positive, beautiful energy to people while spreading peace and harmony throughout the planet. Instead of hatred, you become an advocate for love. Hatred responds to hated by causing anguish. However, hatred responds to love by transforming it into blissful peace.
Try it, won’t you!
Friday, December 19, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
The Letter I Forgot to Write
It was back in 1966. I had just volunteered for a tour in Viet Nam. My wife was not very happy though she supported me in my choice.
What I needed to do was write my Mother. It may sound silly to have to write MOM at the age of 28 years, yet it was what I felt. I had kept in contact with Mom when any major event was to occur. She had learned when both my daughters were born. When will I called her. She was at the top of my notification list. Here I was getting ready to let her know I had just volunteered to fight in a war that was just building in a place called Viet Nam. A place no one in my family had any idea why we were there at all. A place that could send my young life to an end. I tried to write that damn letter for 3 months.
On the day I left Colorado for the west coast to join my unit for advanced training in China Lake, California. The letter was still not written. China Lake was over and we were to be deployed to Nam in two days. I wrote letters to my wife, my sister, and a couple of close friends… but not Mom. Forget the coming events. Forget that my wife and my sister knew what was ahead for me. Forget the idea that I had made a stupid decision (at least from my sister’s viewpoint). Sis thought I was a coward for not facing Moms bracing if and when she found out. An ostrich I was and where I was going to stay, where my Mom was concerned.
Mom found out not only where I was but also how long I had been there. First, she tried to get me sent back to the states. When that did not work, she wrote to the chaplain service for help to save her ONLY son. That did not work either. Lastly but not gently, she finally wrote me and when I received the letter, we had just returned from a nasty run up river to My Loc.
It was somewhat funny, a hard to read letter from Mom and a tube filled with pop corn hiding a fifth of scotch. I could feel her crying and feeling lost because of my non-letter. By the time all this happened, I was keel deep in a not so friendly war. We were always heading out to recover some one or some group not able to get back from their mission. Too busy to write Mom a proper letter. I did get off a letter telling her of the excitement I was enjoying. I told her I was on a river and near a great beach to swim and sun bathe. Then I tried to keep her up on what generally was happening. One time she received a letter what had a bit blacked out. What a fuss that one made. Over the next two tours, the letters became less and less specific and less frequent. It seemed my life was much too busy staying or at least trying to stay alive. Doing battle from the deck of a small riverboat, I like trying to be an Eagle when in reality I was a small wood duck waiting for the claws to close in.
By the time I came home, all was forgotten and forgiven. My wife noticed the change in me. The loss of spontaneous smiles and the dark cloud in my everyday mood. Our life together was strained and I was looking for counseling from nearly the beginning of life on his side of the pond.
We would talk about returning to the REAL WORLD. Well, from my point of view, the real world sucked and was ten times more dangerous than The Nam. At least there, we knew whom not to trust. Damn near everyone. The best way to stay alive was to shoot the problem. Then it went away. If another problem occurred, pop and it went away. Sort of simple but somewhat effective. The problem was, the person who cut your hair in the barbershop by day was out to kill you at night. Kids could not be trusted either. Back here in THE REAL WORLD, we were unarmed and what we learned over there was forbidden here in the good old U.S. of A.
You know, I still wish I had never written that letter to MOM, even today.
What I needed to do was write my Mother. It may sound silly to have to write MOM at the age of 28 years, yet it was what I felt. I had kept in contact with Mom when any major event was to occur. She had learned when both my daughters were born. When will I called her. She was at the top of my notification list. Here I was getting ready to let her know I had just volunteered to fight in a war that was just building in a place called Viet Nam. A place no one in my family had any idea why we were there at all. A place that could send my young life to an end. I tried to write that damn letter for 3 months.
On the day I left Colorado for the west coast to join my unit for advanced training in China Lake, California. The letter was still not written. China Lake was over and we were to be deployed to Nam in two days. I wrote letters to my wife, my sister, and a couple of close friends… but not Mom. Forget the coming events. Forget that my wife and my sister knew what was ahead for me. Forget the idea that I had made a stupid decision (at least from my sister’s viewpoint). Sis thought I was a coward for not facing Moms bracing if and when she found out. An ostrich I was and where I was going to stay, where my Mom was concerned.
Mom found out not only where I was but also how long I had been there. First, she tried to get me sent back to the states. When that did not work, she wrote to the chaplain service for help to save her ONLY son. That did not work either. Lastly but not gently, she finally wrote me and when I received the letter, we had just returned from a nasty run up river to My Loc.
It was somewhat funny, a hard to read letter from Mom and a tube filled with pop corn hiding a fifth of scotch. I could feel her crying and feeling lost because of my non-letter. By the time all this happened, I was keel deep in a not so friendly war. We were always heading out to recover some one or some group not able to get back from their mission. Too busy to write Mom a proper letter. I did get off a letter telling her of the excitement I was enjoying. I told her I was on a river and near a great beach to swim and sun bathe. Then I tried to keep her up on what generally was happening. One time she received a letter what had a bit blacked out. What a fuss that one made. Over the next two tours, the letters became less and less specific and less frequent. It seemed my life was much too busy staying or at least trying to stay alive. Doing battle from the deck of a small riverboat, I like trying to be an Eagle when in reality I was a small wood duck waiting for the claws to close in.
By the time I came home, all was forgotten and forgiven. My wife noticed the change in me. The loss of spontaneous smiles and the dark cloud in my everyday mood. Our life together was strained and I was looking for counseling from nearly the beginning of life on his side of the pond.
We would talk about returning to the REAL WORLD. Well, from my point of view, the real world sucked and was ten times more dangerous than The Nam. At least there, we knew whom not to trust. Damn near everyone. The best way to stay alive was to shoot the problem. Then it went away. If another problem occurred, pop and it went away. Sort of simple but somewhat effective. The problem was, the person who cut your hair in the barbershop by day was out to kill you at night. Kids could not be trusted either. Back here in THE REAL WORLD, we were unarmed and what we learned over there was forbidden here in the good old U.S. of A.
You know, I still wish I had never written that letter to MOM, even today.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Will It Ever End?
I started this road some 35 years ago. There were intense times when a group of combat vets would just barely be able to hold to their sanity, and times when the laughter was so sweet one would think there was nothing wrong. Week after week going back to the meetings had, I thought, moved me far away from the fresh raw emotions erupting from my well zone of war. Not so!
This past weekend, I attended a Combat Veterans retreat on the side of Mt. Hood. I was the oldest with age range of 25 to 70. The retreat started slowly with the usual uneasiness of strangers feeling for a safe position with-in the group. No-one wanted to be in the corner nor in the center, yet we were able to make a semi-circle. [All names will be changed to protect the vets and the spouses.]
John started out the first day by drumming an African chant to teach us a way to start and stop each days three sessions. 24 vets with staff and spouses adding to about 30 members. From the song we went to coffee hour and then to the grouping. This was to be the routine for the next four days. Eat and group, eat and group, eat and group, the last group was for slowing down so we could rest for the night. The first night went until almost midnight though.
The second day was easily heated up in emotions as we were able to be more relaxed with each other. Experience after experience was related to the group and some tears were shed. Along with the tears came hugs and a lot of support for the pain felt. By the end of the day there was little doubt, I thought, as to who would be sharing and who would be the hold-outs. Horror story after horror story, pain after pain, emotion after emotion would be escaping from the dark recesses of our minds. I didn't mind telling my horrors, after all, I'd been through this for 35 years.
It was quiet during the first night. The second night the rains came in with a vengeance. Sounds permeated every nook and cranny of my room. That night I became a victim of my own confidence. I had dreams I had long forgot and didn't need to remember. I visited the blood and gore of 40 years ago. Feelings of loss and confusion not felt on this side of the pond. I held my own for most of the night, not wanting to wake my wife and my love. About two A.M., the rush of anger and hate I had so long ago released came back to me as a long discarded enemy.
Enemies like these are not as welcome as you might think. The reason I was shocked into past realities was letting down my guard and not remembering my coping skills learned so long ago. tomorrow came in short order.
I had rested enough to be on my guard for what would be in store for me if I let myself go. I had a great breakfast and assembled with the group for an opening song. From there all hell broke loosed. Emotions became raw, violence was in my face and I was too close to the center of commotion to feel safe. I shut down and slowly slid to the side of the individuals internal conflict to let him relieve his entrapment of the pain from Iraq. As fast as it erupted, the violent emotions subsided.
A calm flowed over the group and an uneasy truce prevailed. As I was on deck before the encounter, everyone looked to me to see if I was able to move through the mire and let things be. I had receded well within myself for protection. Not realizing the situation, I went for coffee. I came back to the same emotional stalemate. I chatted softly with Allen and let him know all was well with me and asked how he was doing. Doing that set a soft breath of safety to cover the group. Lunch was called.
The afternoon and evening sessions were a much more guarded time for all. More breakouts of high emotion, more release and more side glances. We retired to bed with about as low a comfort zone as possible. I had wondered in the morning how many slept with knives or pistols by their side. I know I did.
Monday morning Allen spoke to me with hesitation. I reassured him I was not offended nor wanting to make him feel guilty about his own war wounds. He relaxed and we talked for a time and he learned of my pain and memories of Viet Nam. We both remarked how similar our experiences had been. They were just 35 years apart.
The last day arrived and we were to to read a selected reading in front of some 200 people. We read, accepted many sympathy expressions, retreated to a fine dessert table and went our separate ways. All promised to keep in touch and were proud to have gone through this trial by emotional fire.
I looked over those very young people and wondered aloud..
"When will we learn and will it ever end?"
This past weekend, I attended a Combat Veterans retreat on the side of Mt. Hood. I was the oldest with age range of 25 to 70. The retreat started slowly with the usual uneasiness of strangers feeling for a safe position with-in the group. No-one wanted to be in the corner nor in the center, yet we were able to make a semi-circle. [All names will be changed to protect the vets and the spouses.]
John started out the first day by drumming an African chant to teach us a way to start and stop each days three sessions. 24 vets with staff and spouses adding to about 30 members. From the song we went to coffee hour and then to the grouping. This was to be the routine for the next four days. Eat and group, eat and group, eat and group, the last group was for slowing down so we could rest for the night. The first night went until almost midnight though.
The second day was easily heated up in emotions as we were able to be more relaxed with each other. Experience after experience was related to the group and some tears were shed. Along with the tears came hugs and a lot of support for the pain felt. By the end of the day there was little doubt, I thought, as to who would be sharing and who would be the hold-outs. Horror story after horror story, pain after pain, emotion after emotion would be escaping from the dark recesses of our minds. I didn't mind telling my horrors, after all, I'd been through this for 35 years.
It was quiet during the first night. The second night the rains came in with a vengeance. Sounds permeated every nook and cranny of my room. That night I became a victim of my own confidence. I had dreams I had long forgot and didn't need to remember. I visited the blood and gore of 40 years ago. Feelings of loss and confusion not felt on this side of the pond. I held my own for most of the night, not wanting to wake my wife and my love. About two A.M., the rush of anger and hate I had so long ago released came back to me as a long discarded enemy.
Enemies like these are not as welcome as you might think. The reason I was shocked into past realities was letting down my guard and not remembering my coping skills learned so long ago. tomorrow came in short order.
I had rested enough to be on my guard for what would be in store for me if I let myself go. I had a great breakfast and assembled with the group for an opening song. From there all hell broke loosed. Emotions became raw, violence was in my face and I was too close to the center of commotion to feel safe. I shut down and slowly slid to the side of the individuals internal conflict to let him relieve his entrapment of the pain from Iraq. As fast as it erupted, the violent emotions subsided.
A calm flowed over the group and an uneasy truce prevailed. As I was on deck before the encounter, everyone looked to me to see if I was able to move through the mire and let things be. I had receded well within myself for protection. Not realizing the situation, I went for coffee. I came back to the same emotional stalemate. I chatted softly with Allen and let him know all was well with me and asked how he was doing. Doing that set a soft breath of safety to cover the group. Lunch was called.
The afternoon and evening sessions were a much more guarded time for all. More breakouts of high emotion, more release and more side glances. We retired to bed with about as low a comfort zone as possible. I had wondered in the morning how many slept with knives or pistols by their side. I know I did.
Monday morning Allen spoke to me with hesitation. I reassured him I was not offended nor wanting to make him feel guilty about his own war wounds. He relaxed and we talked for a time and he learned of my pain and memories of Viet Nam. We both remarked how similar our experiences had been. They were just 35 years apart.
The last day arrived and we were to to read a selected reading in front of some 200 people. We read, accepted many sympathy expressions, retreated to a fine dessert table and went our separate ways. All promised to keep in touch and were proud to have gone through this trial by emotional fire.
I looked over those very young people and wondered aloud..
"When will we learn and will it ever end?"
Saturday, October 25, 2008
National Holiday
Thank you for the pointed remark. I too feel the congress did a short step by not giving the Native Community their Holiday though the whole month of November would be much better. So a small step as a start may be the foot in the door. Let us hope so. Rocco
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Native American Heritage Day
- On Tue, 10/21/08, Pat Talley wrote:
> From: Pat Talley
> Subject: Fw: [SAIGE] Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008
> To: Undisclosed-Recipient@yahoo.com
> Date: Tuesday, October 21, 2008, 9:37 PM
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Joseph Bohanon"
> Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 9:43 AM
> Subject: Fw: [SAIGE] Native American Heritage Day Act of
> 2008
>
>
> > Does this mean that federal employees will actually
> have a day off in
> > recognition of the Indigenous Peoples? Great!!!
> >
> >
--- On Sun, 10/19/08, Nanette Waller <> wrote:
Date: Sunday, October 19, 2008, 1:40 PM
On Oct. 10, 2008 H.J. Res. 62 became Public Law
No: 110-370
Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008 (Enrolled
as Agreed to or Passed by Both House and Senate)
One Hundred Tenth Congress of the United States of America
AT THE SECOND SESSION
Begun and held at the City of Washington on
Thursday, the third day of January, two thousand and eight
Joint Resolution To honor the achievements and contributions of
Native Americans to the United States, and for other purposes.
Resolved by the Senate and House of Representatives of the
United States of America in Congress assembled,
SECTION 1. SHORT TITLE.
This Act may be cited as the `Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008'.
SEC. 2. FINDINGS. Congress finds that--
(1) Native Americans are the descendants of the aboriginal, indigenous,
native people who were the original inhabitants of the United States;
(2) Native Americans have volunteered to serve in the United States Armed Forces
and have served with valor in all of the Nation's military actions
from the Revolutionary War through the present day,
and in most of those actions, more Native Americans per capita
served in the Armed Forces than any other group of Americans;
(3) Native Americans have made distinct and
significant contributions to the United States and the rest of the world in
many fields, including agriculture, medicine, music, language, and art,
and Native Americans have distinguished themselves as inventors,
entrepreneurs spiritual leaders, and scholars;
(4) Native Americans should be recognized for their contributions to the
United States as local and national leaders, artists, athletes, and scholars;
(5) nationwide recognition of the contributions
that Native Americans
have made to the fabric of American society will afford an
opportunity for all Americans to demonstrate their respect and
admiration of Native
Americans for their important contributions to the
political, cultural, and economic life of the United States;
(6) nationwide recognition of the contributions
that Native Americans have made to the Nation will encourage
self-esteem, pride, and self-awareness in Native Americans of all ages;
(7) designation of the Friday following
Thanksgiving of each year as
Native American Heritage Day will underscore the
government-to-government relationship between the United States and
Native American governments; and
(8) designation of Native American Heritage Day
will encourage public
elementary and secondary schools in the United States to enhance
understanding of Native Americans by providing curricula
and classroom instruction focusing on the achievements and
contributions of Native Americans to the Nation.
SEC. 3. IMPLEMENTATION OF NATIVE AMERICAN HERITAGE DAY.
Congress--
(1) designates Friday, November 28, 2008, as `Native American Heritage Day';
and
(2) encourages the people of the United States, as well as Federal,
State, and local governments, and interested groups and organizations to
observe Native American Heritage Day with appropriate
programs, ceremonies, and activities, including activities relating to--
(A) the historical status of Native American
> tribal governments as well as the present day status of Native Americans;
(B) the cultures, traditions, and languages of
Native Americans; and
(C) the rich Native American cultural legacy thatall Americans enjoy today.
Speaker of the House of Representatives.
Vice President of the United States and
President of the Senate.
See http://thomas. loc.gov for further information.
Lori Windle
OSM Western Region
Denver, CO
> From: Pat Talley
> Subject: Fw: [SAIGE] Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008
> To: Undisclosed-Recipient@yahoo.com
> Date: Tuesday, October 21, 2008, 9:37 PM
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Joseph Bohanon"
> Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 9:43 AM
> Subject: Fw: [SAIGE] Native American Heritage Day Act of
> 2008
>
>
> > Does this mean that federal employees will actually
> have a day off in
> > recognition of the Indigenous Peoples? Great!!!
> >
> >
--- On Sun, 10/19/08, Nanette Waller <> wrote:
Date: Sunday, October 19, 2008, 1:40 PM
On Oct. 10, 2008 H.J. Res. 62 became Public Law
No: 110-370
Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008 (Enrolled
as Agreed to or Passed by Both House and Senate)
One Hundred Tenth Congress of the United States of America
AT THE SECOND SESSION
Begun and held at the City of Washington on
Thursday, the third day of January, two thousand and eight
Joint Resolution To honor the achievements and contributions of
Native Americans to the United States, and for other purposes.
Resolved by the Senate and House of Representatives of the
United States of America in Congress assembled,
SECTION 1. SHORT TITLE.
This Act may be cited as the `Native American Heritage Day Act of 2008'.
SEC. 2. FINDINGS. Congress finds that--
(1) Native Americans are the descendants of the aboriginal, indigenous,
native people who were the original inhabitants of the United States;
(2) Native Americans have volunteered to serve in the United States Armed Forces
and have served with valor in all of the Nation's military actions
from the Revolutionary War through the present day,
and in most of those actions, more Native Americans per capita
served in the Armed Forces than any other group of Americans;
(3) Native Americans have made distinct and
significant contributions to the United States and the rest of the world in
many fields, including agriculture, medicine, music, language, and art,
and Native Americans have distinguished themselves as inventors,
entrepreneurs spiritual leaders, and scholars;
(4) Native Americans should be recognized for their contributions to the
United States as local and national leaders, artists, athletes, and scholars;
(5) nationwide recognition of the contributions
that Native Americans
have made to the fabric of American society will afford an
opportunity for all Americans to demonstrate their respect and
admiration of Native
Americans for their important contributions to the
political, cultural, and economic life of the United States;
(6) nationwide recognition of the contributions
that Native Americans have made to the Nation will encourage
self-esteem, pride, and self-awareness in Native Americans of all ages;
(7) designation of the Friday following
Thanksgiving of each year as
Native American Heritage Day will underscore the
government-to-government relationship between the United States and
Native American governments; and
(8) designation of Native American Heritage Day
will encourage public
elementary and secondary schools in the United States to enhance
understanding of Native Americans by providing curricula
and classroom instruction focusing on the achievements and
contributions of Native Americans to the Nation.
SEC. 3. IMPLEMENTATION OF NATIVE AMERICAN HERITAGE DAY.
Congress--
(1) designates Friday, November 28, 2008, as `Native American Heritage Day';
and
(2) encourages the people of the United States, as well as Federal,
State, and local governments, and interested groups and organizations to
observe Native American Heritage Day with appropriate
programs, ceremonies, and activities, including activities relating to--
(A) the historical status of Native American
> tribal governments as well as the present day status of Native Americans;
(B) the cultures, traditions, and languages of
Native Americans; and
(C) the rich Native American cultural legacy thatall Americans enjoy today.
Speaker of the House of Representatives.
Vice President of the United States and
President of the Senate.
See http://thomas. loc.gov for further information.
Lori Windle
OSM Western Region
Denver, CO
Sunday, October 05, 2008
No Need To Wait
We humans have a knack for coming together and rising up to our potential in the face of a tragedy. Natural disasters and acts of violence bring us out of our individual selves and into the world, ready to lend a hand to those in need. This experience is often life-changing for those who are willing to step into the position of helper. We feel that we are finally doing something important, and this gives us the feeling of more self-actualized. We feel more connected to the people we are helping, as well as more connected to humanity in general. As we expand beyond the boundaries of our individual pursuits, there can be a complete reality shift. We often find that it is much easier to be happy when we are motivated to make the world better in tangible ways, when coming to the rescue of those who suffer.
Considering the many benefits of this kind of gesture, it is surprising that more of us don’t devote our lives, or at least some portion of our time, to serving other people in need. We don’t have to wait for a tragedy, in our community, we can offer ourselves to ourselves to service any time. Sometimes it’s easier to respond to an event that has just happened rather than to ongoing problems like homelessness, poverty, and illness. The truth of this is that there is always someone in need of our best efforts to rally a group of helpers and healers. Maybe we feel discouraged because these smaller acts and gestures don’t generate the same kind of energy and attention from other people, yet perhaps an effort to change the small local efforts is one way to change the world.
The more we promote, applaud, and actively inspire humanitarian efforts in our community, the more others may be drawn to this kind of work in their communities and thus change the world. We might pay a little less attention to sports and celebrity gossip and a little more attention to those everyday heroes who devote their lives to alleviating suffering. The more attention we pay, the more we will inspire ourselves and others to be of service in our local community and the world that greatly needs our attention.
Considering the many benefits of this kind of gesture, it is surprising that more of us don’t devote our lives, or at least some portion of our time, to serving other people in need. We don’t have to wait for a tragedy, in our community, we can offer ourselves to ourselves to service any time. Sometimes it’s easier to respond to an event that has just happened rather than to ongoing problems like homelessness, poverty, and illness. The truth of this is that there is always someone in need of our best efforts to rally a group of helpers and healers. Maybe we feel discouraged because these smaller acts and gestures don’t generate the same kind of energy and attention from other people, yet perhaps an effort to change the small local efforts is one way to change the world.
The more we promote, applaud, and actively inspire humanitarian efforts in our community, the more others may be drawn to this kind of work in their communities and thus change the world. We might pay a little less attention to sports and celebrity gossip and a little more attention to those everyday heroes who devote their lives to alleviating suffering. The more attention we pay, the more we will inspire ourselves and others to be of service in our local community and the world that greatly needs our attention.
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
At the feet of the Creator
I know the feeling of walking through life as if I was carrying a huge burden. My worries and stresses weighing me down as I struggle to keep moving forward. There is no way to move freely and fluidly in such a situation, and I longed to lay our burdens down. If it were possible to do such a thing could be enough to elicit a sigh of relief and a feeling of lightness.
Imagination is a powerful tool. I can use it to take journeys to faraway places without ever leaving my home. I can also lay my burdens down at the feet of the Creator, Earth Mother, Buddha, a Sacred Mountain or Shrine, thus releasing myself from that which I can’t handle on our own. No matter how smart I am, how capable I am, or how hard I work. No-one can cope alone with all the worries that are taken on in the course of living. I am NOT designed to do so. My wellbeing depends upon an ability to hand over that which I can no longer carry by myself. I need to surrender my heavy load to someone or something I know will help me.
Visualizing carrying my burdens to the feet of someone or something much bigger than I, can be a powerful daily practice. I can begin by sitting with eyes closed and envisioning an all powerful, supremely comforting Being, in what ever form, standing at the end of a road. I See myself carrying a large container, with my worries, large and small, inside it. Making my way to the Being I have chosen, and lay my baggage down at their feet. I surrender myself to feel the lightness and relief this action brings. Expressing my heart felt gratitude at the release I feel. This simple meditation can liberate me from any burden I was never meant to carry.
Imagination is a powerful tool. I can use it to take journeys to faraway places without ever leaving my home. I can also lay my burdens down at the feet of the Creator, Earth Mother, Buddha, a Sacred Mountain or Shrine, thus releasing myself from that which I can’t handle on our own. No matter how smart I am, how capable I am, or how hard I work. No-one can cope alone with all the worries that are taken on in the course of living. I am NOT designed to do so. My wellbeing depends upon an ability to hand over that which I can no longer carry by myself. I need to surrender my heavy load to someone or something I know will help me.
Visualizing carrying my burdens to the feet of someone or something much bigger than I, can be a powerful daily practice. I can begin by sitting with eyes closed and envisioning an all powerful, supremely comforting Being, in what ever form, standing at the end of a road. I See myself carrying a large container, with my worries, large and small, inside it. Making my way to the Being I have chosen, and lay my baggage down at their feet. I surrender myself to feel the lightness and relief this action brings. Expressing my heart felt gratitude at the release I feel. This simple meditation can liberate me from any burden I was never meant to carry.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Last month
Well this past month has moved without any help from me. I have tried to make an effort to atleast give a bit of news here and there but to not issue anything at all is just plan boring. I spent most of the month trying to make a bed set [bed and two side tables. They came out rather good, if I must say so myself. I would let all see them but right now my laptop is acting like there is a great strainin doing what I need done. As you look to tomorrow, do you often feel as though tomorrow is but a chance happening? Here in my mind, many times tomorrow is but a glance at a repitition of today and yesterday. Struggling with senior years [70 and above]takes in the health phase, the loss phase, the semi-solation phase,food phase [not knowing what to eat because too much tastes like there is no taste to it].
So here I am at the end of September and I am looking at my daughter, Heatherf, growing into adulthood and soon to be moving on in this world. Her goals are lofty, and mine weren't when I was her age? She has her eyes set on dance in New York. She is well suited to do that as well as any other theater she wishes to do.
I on the otherhand am absorbed in `what am I going to do with the rest of MY life. I have completed a small book and hope to have in published this next year at the latest. It is filled with shorter stories and small poems from my heart as spirit. I have more to say but my eyes are giving out and I need to shut them for a while. Blessings to all.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Rethink Complaining
Rethink Complaining
We all know someone who has elevated the process of complaining to an art, sometimes funny, sometimes exhausting. These people have the ability to seek out a problem just about anywhere.
In its more evolved form, complaining is the ability to see what’s not working in one’s own life or in the external world. It can be quite useful if followed to its natural conclusion of finding a solution and applying it. As is the usual case, many don’t get that far, and find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses, this is not a big problem. Yet if complaining has become a huge part of our identities, then the time to take a good look at how we are spending our energy has arrived.
Complaining is a way of acknowledging that someone is not happy with the way things are. When we complain or criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable situation in order to make room for something new. But, if all we do is tear down and not bothering to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are failing the process. In truth, we are at risk of becoming a stagnant and destructive force in our lives and in the lives of those we love. A major issue with complaining is that we tend to focus on other people, whom we can’t change, as a way of deflecting attention from the one person we can change—ourselves. Focusing our complaining on something useful has a twofold process that begins with turning our critical eye to look at what we can actually do something about, and then taking positive action.
When we find ourselves complaining, the last thing we need to do is beat down on ourselves. Instead, we can begin to notice that we are in the mode of wanting to make some changes. Rather than lashing out at someone or some organization, we can look for an appropriate place to channel this energy—not at our neighbor’s house, but possibly parts of our own. Finally, we can ask ourselves the positive question, “What would we like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down?” When we do this, we change a negative process into a creative process, thus using our energy to change ourselves and the world around us in a positive way.
We all know someone who has elevated the process of complaining to an art, sometimes funny, sometimes exhausting. These people have the ability to seek out a problem just about anywhere.
In its more evolved form, complaining is the ability to see what’s not working in one’s own life or in the external world. It can be quite useful if followed to its natural conclusion of finding a solution and applying it. As is the usual case, many don’t get that far, and find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses, this is not a big problem. Yet if complaining has become a huge part of our identities, then the time to take a good look at how we are spending our energy has arrived.
Complaining is a way of acknowledging that someone is not happy with the way things are. When we complain or criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable situation in order to make room for something new. But, if all we do is tear down and not bothering to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are failing the process. In truth, we are at risk of becoming a stagnant and destructive force in our lives and in the lives of those we love. A major issue with complaining is that we tend to focus on other people, whom we can’t change, as a way of deflecting attention from the one person we can change—ourselves. Focusing our complaining on something useful has a twofold process that begins with turning our critical eye to look at what we can actually do something about, and then taking positive action.
When we find ourselves complaining, the last thing we need to do is beat down on ourselves. Instead, we can begin to notice that we are in the mode of wanting to make some changes. Rather than lashing out at someone or some organization, we can look for an appropriate place to channel this energy—not at our neighbor’s house, but possibly parts of our own. Finally, we can ask ourselves the positive question, “What would we like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down?” When we do this, we change a negative process into a creative process, thus using our energy to change ourselves and the world around us in a positive way.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
What is a Metis?
Forwarded Message:
What is a Metis
Thursday, June 19, 2008 3:06 PM
From:
"Joe"
To:
CMC_Forum@yahoogroups.com
WHAT IS A Métis?©
February 25, 2008.
This question has been asked by so many people. And just as many people have conveyed their interpretation of what is a Métis. The Canadian Government has even provided its own interpretation of what is Métis.
To each Métis, there is a different answer from a different
perspective. I feel one cannot define Métis without looking at the history and culture and there the problem begins. I cannot speak for anyone else. I cannot group the Métis into a label that encompasses all Métis. To do so would exclude many and set forth a stereotype.
One cannot dismiss the "diversity" in the teachings that sits in the very core of being Métis. To define Métis according to a preset format, or stereotype, can only at best provide the damaging tools to divide the Métis Nation and feed discord amongst its people.
Taking into account the history of this great land, a Métis emerged from the passion of love between a man and a woman. The parents of this child were loving and caring. This child is the embodiment of hers/his ancestral roots. In some cases, the child was taught by the mother. In some cases, the child was taught by the father. And yet,
in another case was taught by both. If we look at the mother being a First Nation Women, and the father being European, we can imagine the dilemma faced by this child. Or is there a dilemma? Perhaps not.
To start with, there must have been an interest in the other's culture. The individual's interest in the other's culture is perhaps the start point. I have heard some say, "we don't that". "That belongs to the First Nations and not us". It seems to be a very Eurocentric view. We should try and understand that perhaps you did not do this. That perhaps this is not your way. To include all the Métis in that statement puts us in the same position as the very
ones that judged the Métis in the beginning. Being segregated and even looked down upon by one's own family for not only marrying into First Nations, but also exercising the individuality and non-judgmental attitude towards the parents. It takes away the very reason why some went away. It takes away the individuality of the
Métis. It takes away from the very Spirit of being Métis. The individuality of the Métis seems to be the very core of what we may consider a Métis. By trying to coerce me in making me just like you, are you not taking away the individuality of who I am?
We all know the history of some of the first coureurs des bois and how some chose not to be part of the system existing at the time. Some chose to move away…perhaps because they were better treated or
not judged.
So, what is a Métis? Since there is a different definition from each and every Métis, then we can say that each definition is a component part of the whole, and therefore can also say that any one component part cannot inclusively define the Whole. This is to say, every one's definition is important to the whole.
Miigwetch,
Joseph R. Paquette
What is a Metis
Thursday, June 19, 2008 3:06 PM
From:
"Joe"
To:
CMC_Forum@yahoogroups.com
WHAT IS A Métis?©
February 25, 2008.
This question has been asked by so many people. And just as many people have conveyed their interpretation of what is a Métis. The Canadian Government has even provided its own interpretation of what is Métis.
To each Métis, there is a different answer from a different
perspective. I feel one cannot define Métis without looking at the history and culture and there the problem begins. I cannot speak for anyone else. I cannot group the Métis into a label that encompasses all Métis. To do so would exclude many and set forth a stereotype.
One cannot dismiss the "diversity" in the teachings that sits in the very core of being Métis. To define Métis according to a preset format, or stereotype, can only at best provide the damaging tools to divide the Métis Nation and feed discord amongst its people.
Taking into account the history of this great land, a Métis emerged from the passion of love between a man and a woman. The parents of this child were loving and caring. This child is the embodiment of hers/his ancestral roots. In some cases, the child was taught by the mother. In some cases, the child was taught by the father. And yet,
in another case was taught by both. If we look at the mother being a First Nation Women, and the father being European, we can imagine the dilemma faced by this child. Or is there a dilemma? Perhaps not.
To start with, there must have been an interest in the other's culture. The individual's interest in the other's culture is perhaps the start point. I have heard some say, "we don't that". "That belongs to the First Nations and not us". It seems to be a very Eurocentric view. We should try and understand that perhaps you did not do this. That perhaps this is not your way. To include all the Métis in that statement puts us in the same position as the very
ones that judged the Métis in the beginning. Being segregated and even looked down upon by one's own family for not only marrying into First Nations, but also exercising the individuality and non-judgmental attitude towards the parents. It takes away the very reason why some went away. It takes away the individuality of the
Métis. It takes away from the very Spirit of being Métis. The individuality of the Métis seems to be the very core of what we may consider a Métis. By trying to coerce me in making me just like you, are you not taking away the individuality of who I am?
We all know the history of some of the first coureurs des bois and how some chose not to be part of the system existing at the time. Some chose to move away…perhaps because they were better treated or
not judged.
So, what is a Métis? Since there is a different definition from each and every Métis, then we can say that each definition is a component part of the whole, and therefore can also say that any one component part cannot inclusively define the Whole. This is to say, every one's definition is important to the whole.
Miigwetch,
Joseph R. Paquette
Sunday, June 08, 2008
Lay your burdens down
We all know the feeling of walking through life as if we are carrying the huge burden of our worries and stresses on our backs and shoulders, struggling to keep moving forward. There is no real way to move freely and fluidly in such a situation, and we are all longing to lay our burdens down. Just imagining that it would be possible to do such a thing can be enough to elicit a sigh of relief and a feeling of lightness.
The human imagination is a powerful tool, and we can use it to take journeys to faraway places without ever leaving our home. Because of this, we too can lay our burdens down at the feet of a divine being such as the great Mother, Buddha or a mountain. Releasing ourselves from that which we can’t handle on our own. No matter how smart we are, how capable we are, or how hard we work, no one can single-handedly cope with all the worries that we tend to take on in the course of our lives. And, we aren't designed to do so. Our wellbeing depends upon our ability to hand over that which we can no longer carry by ourselves.
Visualizing yourself carrying your burdens to the feet of someone or something much bigger than you can be a powerful daily practice. To begin, sit with your eyes closed and envision an all powerful, supremely comforting being in what ever form that takes for you, standing at the end of a road. See yourself carrying a large sack, box, or other container, imagining that all your worries are inside it. Watch as you make your way to the being of your choice, and lay your baggage down at their feet. Allow yourself to feel the lightness and relief of this action, express your gratitude, and surrender. You will be amazed by how this simple meditation can liberate you from a burden you were never meant to carry.
The human imagination is a powerful tool, and we can use it to take journeys to faraway places without ever leaving our home. Because of this, we too can lay our burdens down at the feet of a divine being such as the great Mother, Buddha or a mountain. Releasing ourselves from that which we can’t handle on our own. No matter how smart we are, how capable we are, or how hard we work, no one can single-handedly cope with all the worries that we tend to take on in the course of our lives. And, we aren't designed to do so. Our wellbeing depends upon our ability to hand over that which we can no longer carry by ourselves.
Visualizing yourself carrying your burdens to the feet of someone or something much bigger than you can be a powerful daily practice. To begin, sit with your eyes closed and envision an all powerful, supremely comforting being in what ever form that takes for you, standing at the end of a road. See yourself carrying a large sack, box, or other container, imagining that all your worries are inside it. Watch as you make your way to the being of your choice, and lay your baggage down at their feet. Allow yourself to feel the lightness and relief of this action, express your gratitude, and surrender. You will be amazed by how this simple meditation can liberate you from a burden you were never meant to carry.
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Beginning Our Day
The moment when we very first open our eyes and come into consciousness is a very precious moment. It sets the tone for the rest of our day. It is like the opening scene in a film or novel. At this moment, our ability to create the day is at its most powerful. We can offer ourselves fully to the creative process and fill this moment with whatever inspires us most. It may be that we want to be more generous. We may want to be more open to beauty in our daily lives. Whatever the choice, if we bring this vision into our minds at this very fertile moment, we empower it to be the guiding principle of our day.
Sometimes we wake up with a mood already in place. It can inform us and deepen our awareness to what’s going on inside us, as well as around us. We are can honor this feeling and incorporate it into our consciousness . We may want to decide before we go to sleep what we want to bring to the next day of our lives. It could be that we simply want to be more open to whatever comes our way. We may want to summon a particular quality such as confidence. We may simply call up a feeling that perfectly captures what we want our day to have.
We can reaffirm our vision or affirmation as we shower and eat breakfast, as well as recalling it at various times throughout the day. We can write it down and carry it with us on a little slip of paper if this helps. Simply by being aware of those first moments, we set the stage for a more conscious, enlivened experience, and we become active participants in the creation of our lives. After all, it is the first day of the rest of our lives.
Sometimes we wake up with a mood already in place. It can inform us and deepen our awareness to what’s going on inside us, as well as around us. We are can honor this feeling and incorporate it into our consciousness . We may want to decide before we go to sleep what we want to bring to the next day of our lives. It could be that we simply want to be more open to whatever comes our way. We may want to summon a particular quality such as confidence. We may simply call up a feeling that perfectly captures what we want our day to have.
We can reaffirm our vision or affirmation as we shower and eat breakfast, as well as recalling it at various times throughout the day. We can write it down and carry it with us on a little slip of paper if this helps. Simply by being aware of those first moments, we set the stage for a more conscious, enlivened experience, and we become active participants in the creation of our lives. After all, it is the first day of the rest of our lives.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Just some chatterings
Hi to All,
It has been some time since my last post and I need to let all know how I am doing. Mostly I am happy and in upward bound spirits.
My eys are giving me more and more trouble. They are getting weaker and less able to focus of an object. I've new glasses coming for reading and computer use, I also have a wart[?] on the back of my eye very near my optic nerve. Thus far it has not changed size.
My life in a wheel chair is adjusting and I feel I can get around town by bus or a special van service. The Van service is less convenient as to get to the mall takes almost one and a half hours, and driving takes 15 minutes. OH qwell, [plan ahead is my next topic to be sure to do.
I am getting cold at temps that I was able to keep comfortable with just two years ago. My feel are also suseptable to cold. Soooooo I am now looking for ways to keep me warm in my power scooter as I scoot about in weather. I have been looking for on-line and in the paper. If you see something I might like send me the sight or an addy on line. I will be sure to ;ook and see.
A new snapshot is soon to be posted.
My weight is poorly controled. I weight in a 244 and I have been trying to get down to 195. As I spend a lot of time in my chair or in bed, nothing happens to get me excited about weight loss. I sort of stay mad at me for my situation.
I am seventy and not working. I have an income that is not keeping up with inflation nor the price of gasoline. I stew over the shortness of funds, too. Then, we all probably do the same.
Married to the most wonderful woman in the universe. She takes care of me and is concerned for my well being. She has a position as part time nanny. And She Loves It. Her charges love her as well.
I will try to keep the posts more frequent and not so far apart.
It has been some time since my last post and I need to let all know how I am doing. Mostly I am happy and in upward bound spirits.
My eys are giving me more and more trouble. They are getting weaker and less able to focus of an object. I've new glasses coming for reading and computer use, I also have a wart[?] on the back of my eye very near my optic nerve. Thus far it has not changed size.
My life in a wheel chair is adjusting and I feel I can get around town by bus or a special van service. The Van service is less convenient as to get to the mall takes almost one and a half hours, and driving takes 15 minutes. OH qwell, [plan ahead is my next topic to be sure to do.
I am getting cold at temps that I was able to keep comfortable with just two years ago. My feel are also suseptable to cold. Soooooo I am now looking for ways to keep me warm in my power scooter as I scoot about in weather. I have been looking for on-line and in the paper. If you see something I might like send me the sight or an addy on line. I will be sure to ;ook and see.
A new snapshot is soon to be posted.
My weight is poorly controled. I weight in a 244 and I have been trying to get down to 195. As I spend a lot of time in my chair or in bed, nothing happens to get me excited about weight loss. I sort of stay mad at me for my situation.
I am seventy and not working. I have an income that is not keeping up with inflation nor the price of gasoline. I stew over the shortness of funds, too. Then, we all probably do the same.
Married to the most wonderful woman in the universe. She takes care of me and is concerned for my well being. She has a position as part time nanny. And She Loves It. Her charges love her as well.
I will try to keep the posts more frequent and not so far apart.
Spilling Our Power
We are taught from the time we are children to give away our power to others. When we were told to kiss and/or hug relatives or friends of the family when we did not want to, we taught ourselves to override our inner sense of knowing. Then there are many experiences at school and work that fortifies the “give away power“ syndrome. At this point, we may not know how to hold on to our power. We have been giving it away so automatically and it has become ingrained.
To a degree, giving our energy to others is simply part of the social contract, and we feel we have to do it in order to survive. Is it possible to exchange energy in a way that preserves our inner integrity and stability? Yes! This begins in a small way. Start by listening to our inner voice that continues to let us know what we want, no matter how many times we override its messages.
Examples of how we give away our power are buying into trends, letting other people make decisions for us, not voting, and not voicing an opinion. With not giving our power away, we must be aware of the opposite side, which is standing in our power and being aggressive. Being aggressive is one form of fear, and the remedy is to let our inner balance come back into play.
As we build a relationship with our power, we begin to see that we do not always have to do what we are being asked or told to do by others. We do not have to jump on every trend. All we have to do is have the confidence to listen to our own voice. Let it guide us as we make decisions in our life. Keep in mind and remember to strive for balance.
To a degree, giving our energy to others is simply part of the social contract, and we feel we have to do it in order to survive. Is it possible to exchange energy in a way that preserves our inner integrity and stability? Yes! This begins in a small way. Start by listening to our inner voice that continues to let us know what we want, no matter how many times we override its messages.
Examples of how we give away our power are buying into trends, letting other people make decisions for us, not voting, and not voicing an opinion. With not giving our power away, we must be aware of the opposite side, which is standing in our power and being aggressive. Being aggressive is one form of fear, and the remedy is to let our inner balance come back into play.
As we build a relationship with our power, we begin to see that we do not always have to do what we are being asked or told to do by others. We do not have to jump on every trend. All we have to do is have the confidence to listen to our own voice. Let it guide us as we make decisions in our life. Keep in mind and remember to strive for balance.
Saturday, April 19, 2008
guns and congress
Every so often I read the U.S.News. Usually I throw it away. This past week I was able to find something that wrinkles my brow. In the March 17 2008 issue was a story on Gun Control called Right to Bear Arms. It scares me to see the folly of the fear issues.
Why is it that so few have such a loud noice and the rest of America sits on its hands. Again, the Constitution is being placed on trial along with the Founders of this most important document. I would assume the very placement of the 2nd Amendment in our Bill of Rights, would be enough for America. The arguement for or against a family owning a rifle or a hand gun has little to do with what has been written and the lessons learned these past 200 plus years.
The idea that by restricting the ownership of guns from Joe America will curb the crime rate in the USA is just as silly as by casterating the rapest will curb the rape and violence to men and women in this country.
I have read in this issue how people are blaming the gun dealers for the deaths of our youth. NOT SO! If you want to know how guns are put in the hands of those not fit to have a gun, ask the street gangs, the members of fanaticle organizations who want to do harm to others. Go to the prisons and seek out the kilers of men, women and children on our streets, in our homes and in our schools and churches. Look to the parents who are lazy and just don't put trigger locks on their weapons.
I think you will find the vast majority of criminals get their guns from illegal sources. Guns that hit our streets through smuggling and backyard manufacturing. I've seen guns called disposables by the bucket full in the back or cars and vans, cost 25 to 100 dollars depending on the caliber and quantity desired.
Assault weapons... When and if congress wishes to ban firearms, they need to look at the broad market what may become a reaction to the ban, by the smuggling of assault weapons. Semi-automatic rifles and pistols are easily brought across the U S boarder from the north and from the south. Such a ban will be no better than the proabition act early in the 20 century.
Congress retified the Homeland Security in responce to panic and not clear thinking. The tightening our boarders is not hel;ping to keep people out of the USA. If there were ever to require a national I.D.Card, I think people may awaken to the loss of freedoms put upon the American People by Congress.
Now anyone born after 1940 will not remember the following, yet I will list the progress of the Gwermany People and the loss of their freedom.
1. restriction jobs to the average German.
2. the use of isolating various ethnic peoples
3. control of weapons
4. loss of free speach.
6 national party I D cards
7. Closing of Boarders to "Protect the people".
8. banning learning materials.
I think from this list, those of you how do remember can try to convincence the younger baby boomers and younger of the dangers we are treading on. Unless we are able to see those dangers being pressed by the minority and by Congress the more we are in danger of watchinmg our great nation fall as the Romans, Greeks, Egyptians and the Mongals.
Why is it that so few have such a loud noice and the rest of America sits on its hands. Again, the Constitution is being placed on trial along with the Founders of this most important document. I would assume the very placement of the 2nd Amendment in our Bill of Rights, would be enough for America. The arguement for or against a family owning a rifle or a hand gun has little to do with what has been written and the lessons learned these past 200 plus years.
The idea that by restricting the ownership of guns from Joe America will curb the crime rate in the USA is just as silly as by casterating the rapest will curb the rape and violence to men and women in this country.
I have read in this issue how people are blaming the gun dealers for the deaths of our youth. NOT SO! If you want to know how guns are put in the hands of those not fit to have a gun, ask the street gangs, the members of fanaticle organizations who want to do harm to others. Go to the prisons and seek out the kilers of men, women and children on our streets, in our homes and in our schools and churches. Look to the parents who are lazy and just don't put trigger locks on their weapons.
I think you will find the vast majority of criminals get their guns from illegal sources. Guns that hit our streets through smuggling and backyard manufacturing. I've seen guns called disposables by the bucket full in the back or cars and vans, cost 25 to 100 dollars depending on the caliber and quantity desired.
Assault weapons... When and if congress wishes to ban firearms, they need to look at the broad market what may become a reaction to the ban, by the smuggling of assault weapons. Semi-automatic rifles and pistols are easily brought across the U S boarder from the north and from the south. Such a ban will be no better than the proabition act early in the 20 century.
Congress retified the Homeland Security in responce to panic and not clear thinking. The tightening our boarders is not hel;ping to keep people out of the USA. If there were ever to require a national I.D.Card, I think people may awaken to the loss of freedoms put upon the American People by Congress.
Now anyone born after 1940 will not remember the following, yet I will list the progress of the Gwermany People and the loss of their freedom.
1. restriction jobs to the average German.
2. the use of isolating various ethnic peoples
3. control of weapons
4. loss of free speach.
6 national party I D cards
7. Closing of Boarders to "Protect the people".
8. banning learning materials.
I think from this list, those of you how do remember can try to convincence the younger baby boomers and younger of the dangers we are treading on. Unless we are able to see those dangers being pressed by the minority and by Congress the more we are in danger of watchinmg our great nation fall as the Romans, Greeks, Egyptians and the Mongals.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Lifes Status Quo
When our lives are going well or not, we usually find ourselves living a status quo existence, a life, as we know it. Resisting change is a very human tendency. If it were possible to decide not to accept status quo in our lives, life would be simpler. Change will come and the status quo will go, eventually, with or without our permission. We find at the end of the day that we feel more empowered as we find the courage to ally ourselves with the universal force of change,
The answer is not to go about changing things at random, without regard to whether they are working or not. There is a time for stability and the preservation of what has been. In fact, the ability to stabilize and preserve what is serving us is part of what helps us to survive and thrive through this life. The problem comes when we focus on the status quo rather than honoring the universal truths. For example, if we allow a situation we are in to remain, because we are comfortable, it may be time for us to seek the courage to challenge this status quo.
It may be painful at times, or surprisingly liberating, yet it will likely be a little of both. Underneath the discomfort, we will find excitement and energy as we risk accepting the natural flow of the universal in our lives. As we dismantle the logjam inside ourselves, the river of our life can flow free. Once we remove the obstacles, we simply go with the flow, trusting the changes that follow, until the next time.
The answer is not to go about changing things at random, without regard to whether they are working or not. There is a time for stability and the preservation of what has been. In fact, the ability to stabilize and preserve what is serving us is part of what helps us to survive and thrive through this life. The problem comes when we focus on the status quo rather than honoring the universal truths. For example, if we allow a situation we are in to remain, because we are comfortable, it may be time for us to seek the courage to challenge this status quo.
It may be painful at times, or surprisingly liberating, yet it will likely be a little of both. Underneath the discomfort, we will find excitement and energy as we risk accepting the natural flow of the universal in our lives. As we dismantle the logjam inside ourselves, the river of our life can flow free. Once we remove the obstacles, we simply go with the flow, trusting the changes that follow, until the next time.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
A stress Free home
Sometimes my life is so busy that I treat my home as if it were an impersonal place that I merely pass through. I can make certain that my home can truly feel like my sanctuary by taking the time to tend to it like a garden, which needs care in order to offer me the beauty of its’ blooms. When I take the time to treat my home like a beloved treasure, I can shift the energy from being merely a place to being wellsprings for the replenishment of my energy.
Consider,homes are the outer reflections of us. If we find that the current appearance clashes with how we’d like to present ourselves, it can keep us from allowing our true light to shine. Uplifting our exterior homes to reflect our inner landscape does not require massive redecorations or a large outlay of money. Small things can make a big difference Simply moving items so that you gaze upon the things you love the most. Liberating treasures you have stored in the closets and making small repairs, maybe use the best dishes can bring the inner you out for the world to see. Organizing and cleaning is a way to remove chaos from your home and introduce more calm. Rejuvenating your personal space can become a creative project and increasing the flow of good throughout all aspects of your live and increases the feeling of connection. We can give old things new life by donating them to charity, opening space for tranquility to enter. Removing stress from our homes can be as simple as paying the bills as they arrive so your energy can focus on spiritual needs and letting your energy move freely throughout your space.
Simplifying your space lets your imagination and energy soar free. Choose to prioritize your homes, making them the true heart of family activities. Then there is freedom to focus on what really matters, time for yourself ,time to share with those you love, and time to continue to improve the tranquility and replenish your energy so that you have more to share with each other.
Consider,homes are the outer reflections of us. If we find that the current appearance clashes with how we’d like to present ourselves, it can keep us from allowing our true light to shine. Uplifting our exterior homes to reflect our inner landscape does not require massive redecorations or a large outlay of money. Small things can make a big difference Simply moving items so that you gaze upon the things you love the most. Liberating treasures you have stored in the closets and making small repairs, maybe use the best dishes can bring the inner you out for the world to see. Organizing and cleaning is a way to remove chaos from your home and introduce more calm. Rejuvenating your personal space can become a creative project and increasing the flow of good throughout all aspects of your live and increases the feeling of connection. We can give old things new life by donating them to charity, opening space for tranquility to enter. Removing stress from our homes can be as simple as paying the bills as they arrive so your energy can focus on spiritual needs and letting your energy move freely throughout your space.
Simplifying your space lets your imagination and energy soar free. Choose to prioritize your homes, making them the true heart of family activities. Then there is freedom to focus on what really matters, time for yourself ,time to share with those you love, and time to continue to improve the tranquility and replenish your energy so that you have more to share with each other.
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Nothing Big Required
There is a general feeling of we are placed here on Earth to accomplish something large and inspiring with our lives. If we haven’t accomplished something that fits the bill we off times feel as if we are waiting. We may feel incomplete, empty, as if our lives don’t make sense to us. In some cases, this may be because we really are destined to do something that we haven’t yet done and we are driven to start and complete it. In most cases though, we can let ourselves off the hook with the realization that just being here, being ourselves, maybe living an inspired life is enough.
As we live our lives in this world, we share our energy and our spirit with the those around us. Our influence touches their lives and, through them, touches the lives of an even grater circle.. When we strive to live our lives to the fullest and become our true selves, we are doing something much bigger on an inner level. That is more than enough to make sense of our being here, on this planet, at this time. There is no need to hold ourselves to an old idea in the back of our minds that we need to make headlines or single-handedly save the world.
We can also look within our hearts to discover what is true for us, what gives our lives meaning, what excites us. We release ourselves from any inward pressure to perform that which comes from outside of our inner sense of purpose. Staying in tune with our true values and living our lives in tune with our own vision is all we need to fulfill our time here. Life is a process of becoming, thusly we cannot help but co-create; being who we are, responding to each moment as it comes. We can trust that this is enough.
As we live our lives in this world, we share our energy and our spirit with the those around us. Our influence touches their lives and, through them, touches the lives of an even grater circle.. When we strive to live our lives to the fullest and become our true selves, we are doing something much bigger on an inner level. That is more than enough to make sense of our being here, on this planet, at this time. There is no need to hold ourselves to an old idea in the back of our minds that we need to make headlines or single-handedly save the world.
We can also look within our hearts to discover what is true for us, what gives our lives meaning, what excites us. We release ourselves from any inward pressure to perform that which comes from outside of our inner sense of purpose. Staying in tune with our true values and living our lives in tune with our own vision is all we need to fulfill our time here. Life is a process of becoming, thusly we cannot help but co-create; being who we are, responding to each moment as it comes. We can trust that this is enough.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Feeling Lost
When I feel stuck in my life, it is important to take stock of what is going on and find out if there is something I are doing or not doing that is keeping me stuck. Sometimes the situation is out of my control, and I need to look inward and find the patience required to wait with equanimity until things move forward again. Many times, though, I can find the source of my stagnation in my own heart and mind.
Sometimes clinging to old ideas about reality has me stuck and I need to make adjustments that will bring me back in tune with life, so I can move forward again. Sometimes fear of change is what keeps me stuck, and I must resolve to find ways of facing that fear.
If introspection does not provide the answers I need, it can sometimes be helpful to ask those around me if they notice anything obvious that I might not be able to see. I ask someone I can trust to be kind and sensitive as well as honest. I let go of my resistance because whenever there is something I can’t see myself, it’s because I don’t want to see it. I try to listen with an open mind, and remember that I am always the final judge of what I need and do. Anything offered to me from an outside source will need to be processed within before its wisdom can take hold.
In all this, I try to be kind to myself and remember that I get stuck sometimes. I think of it as a necessary step on my journey, rather than as a problem that shouldn’t be happening. This can help to keep my frustration at bay and give me the space I need to take a deep breath and really figure out what’s going on.
Sometimes clinging to old ideas about reality has me stuck and I need to make adjustments that will bring me back in tune with life, so I can move forward again. Sometimes fear of change is what keeps me stuck, and I must resolve to find ways of facing that fear.
If introspection does not provide the answers I need, it can sometimes be helpful to ask those around me if they notice anything obvious that I might not be able to see. I ask someone I can trust to be kind and sensitive as well as honest. I let go of my resistance because whenever there is something I can’t see myself, it’s because I don’t want to see it. I try to listen with an open mind, and remember that I am always the final judge of what I need and do. Anything offered to me from an outside source will need to be processed within before its wisdom can take hold.
In all this, I try to be kind to myself and remember that I get stuck sometimes. I think of it as a necessary step on my journey, rather than as a problem that shouldn’t be happening. This can help to keep my frustration at bay and give me the space I need to take a deep breath and really figure out what’s going on.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Turning Inward During Winter
In the depths of winter, we tend to forget that bare trees will once again be full of foliage, the grass and flowers hidden from view, will burst forth once again. While they slumber, nature is continuing her work at the center of each living thing. We can think of our blankets and warm clothes as similar protection—like the cocoon that surrounds a changing caterpillar—while we undergo our own inner transformational work. In the meantime, the lights that twinkle and the fires that warm us can serve to remind us of the flame of life that burns within us.
In order to stoke our inner flame, we can use the time indoors to focus our attention on our homes and families. We can become distracted by the world outside and forget that we need to nourish the lights that warm our hearts. Interacting at a soul level can be done by sharing stories from our hearts, doing projects together, dancing, or playing games. Devoting energy this way helps us build a stronger bond that will sustain us once the world allows us each to pursue our individual goals again.
Winter allows us to feed the flame in our own centers by reading or researching to nourish our dreams and plans for the future. This can mean catching up on all the quieter things we wanted to do but didn’t have time for, like reading books, watching movies, or listening to music. We may have set aside creative pursuits such as painting or writing that can be brought back to the center burner now. It is also a great time to do some journaling to look back on the year that has passed and perhaps the years before this one in preparation for forward motion in the coming year. Nature’s wisdom offers us opportunities to nourish our inner seeds of hope in preparation for our future, so let us enjoy the inner warmth and be grateful for it all.
In order to stoke our inner flame, we can use the time indoors to focus our attention on our homes and families. We can become distracted by the world outside and forget that we need to nourish the lights that warm our hearts. Interacting at a soul level can be done by sharing stories from our hearts, doing projects together, dancing, or playing games. Devoting energy this way helps us build a stronger bond that will sustain us once the world allows us each to pursue our individual goals again.
Winter allows us to feed the flame in our own centers by reading or researching to nourish our dreams and plans for the future. This can mean catching up on all the quieter things we wanted to do but didn’t have time for, like reading books, watching movies, or listening to music. We may have set aside creative pursuits such as painting or writing that can be brought back to the center burner now. It is also a great time to do some journaling to look back on the year that has passed and perhaps the years before this one in preparation for forward motion in the coming year. Nature’s wisdom offers us opportunities to nourish our inner seeds of hope in preparation for our future, so let us enjoy the inner warmth and be grateful for it all.
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Our Comfort zone
Our Comfort Zone
Most of us have had the experience of doing some dreadful task only to finish it with feeling invigorated, filled with a new sense of confidence and strength. What is funny is most of the time when we do them, we come out changed and wondering what we were so worried about or why it took us so long. We may begin to look for other tasks we’ve avoided so that we can feel that same heady mix of excitement and completion.
No matter the reason we avoid things, we think it will force a change we’re not ready for, yet, putting it off only creates more obstacles for us. On the other hand, when we face the task at hand, no matter how onerous, that action creates a flow in our lives and allows us to grow. The relief is palpable when we stand finished, knowing we did something even though it was hard or we didn't want to do it. Yet if we cling to our comfort zone, never addressing the things we don’t want to face, we cut ourselves off from the flow and growth of life.
It seems, we all have at least one thing in our life that never seems to get done. To bring that task to the top of the list and promising ourselves that we will do it on such and such a date, is an act that could liberate a tremendous amount of energy in our lives. Whatever the task, we will allow ourselves to be fueled by the promise of the feelings of exhilaration and confidence that will be the natural reward for conquering that obstacle.
Most of us have had the experience of doing some dreadful task only to finish it with feeling invigorated, filled with a new sense of confidence and strength. What is funny is most of the time when we do them, we come out changed and wondering what we were so worried about or why it took us so long. We may begin to look for other tasks we’ve avoided so that we can feel that same heady mix of excitement and completion.
No matter the reason we avoid things, we think it will force a change we’re not ready for, yet, putting it off only creates more obstacles for us. On the other hand, when we face the task at hand, no matter how onerous, that action creates a flow in our lives and allows us to grow. The relief is palpable when we stand finished, knowing we did something even though it was hard or we didn't want to do it. Yet if we cling to our comfort zone, never addressing the things we don’t want to face, we cut ourselves off from the flow and growth of life.
It seems, we all have at least one thing in our life that never seems to get done. To bring that task to the top of the list and promising ourselves that we will do it on such and such a date, is an act that could liberate a tremendous amount of energy in our lives. Whatever the task, we will allow ourselves to be fueled by the promise of the feelings of exhilaration and confidence that will be the natural reward for conquering that obstacle.
Tuesday, February 05, 2008
Step Away From Anger
When I find myself in an argument, I feel I am losing control of my emotions and they have taken on lives of their own. When I become aware that this is happening, taking a deep breath can help me step back away from the situation. Once I separate myself from the heat of the moment, I find the emotional trigger that began the argument has little to do with the present situation, yet may have brought up feelings related to something else entirely. Looking honestly at what caused my reaction allows me to consciously act more appropriately to the situation and make the best choices.
We can ask questions of our mates and friends to help all of us discover the source of arguments. The shared awareness can aid in finding simple solutions to something physical, like low blood sugar or even a hormonal surge. Maybe we are too serious, and we can just laugh and watch the tension dissolve. We could we are addicted to the excitement that drama brings and the chemicals that our body creates when we are angry. But there may be a deeper issue that requires discussion, understanding, and patience. The more we allow ourselves to step back and examine our reasons for arguing, the easier it becomes to allow real feelings to surface and guide us toward solutions that improve our lives.
When we are clear about our feelings and intentions and communicate them, we have a far better chance of getting what we want than if we lose control and allow our subconscious minds to manipulate the situation. We might take our frustrations out on the people closest to us because we feel safe and comfortable with them. Yet, misplaced anger can cause more harm than good. Debating for what we truly believe can empower us and help us to direct our passions toward greater life experiences. Truly knowing our reasons for loosing control and arguing enables us to grow emotionally in ways that will affect our whole being.
We can ask questions of our mates and friends to help all of us discover the source of arguments. The shared awareness can aid in finding simple solutions to something physical, like low blood sugar or even a hormonal surge. Maybe we are too serious, and we can just laugh and watch the tension dissolve. We could we are addicted to the excitement that drama brings and the chemicals that our body creates when we are angry. But there may be a deeper issue that requires discussion, understanding, and patience. The more we allow ourselves to step back and examine our reasons for arguing, the easier it becomes to allow real feelings to surface and guide us toward solutions that improve our lives.
When we are clear about our feelings and intentions and communicate them, we have a far better chance of getting what we want than if we lose control and allow our subconscious minds to manipulate the situation. We might take our frustrations out on the people closest to us because we feel safe and comfortable with them. Yet, misplaced anger can cause more harm than good. Debating for what we truly believe can empower us and help us to direct our passions toward greater life experiences. Truly knowing our reasons for loosing control and arguing enables us to grow emotionally in ways that will affect our whole being.
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Ready for a Change
Ready For Change
There comes a time in our lives when we feel ready to experience the change we’ve had trouble carrying out. Maybe we’re stuck in a home, a relationship, job, or a town that hasn’t felt right for a long time, but we’ve been unable to shift our circumstances to the direction we want to go. At times like this, a universal declaration to our readiness for a change specified exactly. Think of it as informing a helpful friend that you need their assistance to move up to the next level in your life. If the time is right, the universe will respond with opportunities designed to help you create the change you wish to see.
You can begin the process of making your declaration by getting clear within yourself what exactly you want to change. Whenever we ask anyone for help, they can assist us much better if we are specific. The universe also appreciates our clarity and has an easier time answering a direct communication. When you are clear as to what you want, write your declaration on a piece of paper and place it on your altar, . You can also place it under your pillow or in a box on your nightstand. Set aside some time every day to be silent with your wishes for change, repeating your declaration like a mantra. This lets the universe know that you are ready to change and will be receptive to its efforts.
Be ready to refine and redefine your declaration. Remember to be open to the many different ways in which the change might come to be. Remember also to be active in your own efforts, taking opportunities that come your way, watching for signs, and take responsibility for your intentions. Things don’t happen quickly, so, try not to be discouraged; it might take time to free up energy that has been blocked . If you continue communicating with the universe, declaring yourself clearly and openly, you cannot help but experience the magic of changing and being changed.
There comes a time in our lives when we feel ready to experience the change we’ve had trouble carrying out. Maybe we’re stuck in a home, a relationship, job, or a town that hasn’t felt right for a long time, but we’ve been unable to shift our circumstances to the direction we want to go. At times like this, a universal declaration to our readiness for a change specified exactly. Think of it as informing a helpful friend that you need their assistance to move up to the next level in your life. If the time is right, the universe will respond with opportunities designed to help you create the change you wish to see.
You can begin the process of making your declaration by getting clear within yourself what exactly you want to change. Whenever we ask anyone for help, they can assist us much better if we are specific. The universe also appreciates our clarity and has an easier time answering a direct communication. When you are clear as to what you want, write your declaration on a piece of paper and place it on your altar, . You can also place it under your pillow or in a box on your nightstand. Set aside some time every day to be silent with your wishes for change, repeating your declaration like a mantra. This lets the universe know that you are ready to change and will be receptive to its efforts.
Be ready to refine and redefine your declaration. Remember to be open to the many different ways in which the change might come to be. Remember also to be active in your own efforts, taking opportunities that come your way, watching for signs, and take responsibility for your intentions. Things don’t happen quickly, so, try not to be discouraged; it might take time to free up energy that has been blocked . If you continue communicating with the universe, declaring yourself clearly and openly, you cannot help but experience the magic of changing and being changed.
Saturday, January 05, 2008
At your own pace
At Your Own Pace
The Tortoise And The Hare.
There is a story that is a great example to show the difference between a “Normal” and a “Handicap” individual. All to often we show impatience of aggression toward someone slower than ourselves..
The classic tale of the tortoise and the hare reminds us that different people take life at different speeds and that one way is not necessarily superior to another. In fact, in the story it is the slower animal that ends up arriving at the destination first. In the same way, some of us seem to move very quickly through the issues and obstacles we all face in our lives. Others need long periods of time to process their feelings and move into new states of awareness. For those of us who perceive ourselves as moving quickly, it can be painful and exasperating to deal with someone else's slower pace. Yet, just like the tortoise and the hare, we all arrive at the same destination, together, eventually.
People who take their time with things are probably in the minority in most of the world today. We live in a time when speed and productivity are valued above almost anything else. Therefore, people who flow at a slower pace are out of sync with the world and are often pestered and prodded to go faster and do more. This can be not only frustrating but also counterproductive because the stress of being pushed to move faster than one is able to move actually slows progress. On the other hand, if a person's style is honored and supported, they will find their way in their own time and, just like the tortoise, they might just beat the speedier, more easily distracted person to the finish line.
It's important to remember that we are not in a race to get somewhere ahead of someone else, and it is difficult to judge by appearances whether one person has made more progress than another. Whether you count yourself among the fast movers or as one of the slower folks, we can all benefit from respecting the pace that those around us choose for themselves. This way, we can keep our eyes on our own journey, knowing that we will all end up together in the end.
The Tortoise And The Hare.
There is a story that is a great example to show the difference between a “Normal” and a “Handicap” individual. All to often we show impatience of aggression toward someone slower than ourselves..
The classic tale of the tortoise and the hare reminds us that different people take life at different speeds and that one way is not necessarily superior to another. In fact, in the story it is the slower animal that ends up arriving at the destination first. In the same way, some of us seem to move very quickly through the issues and obstacles we all face in our lives. Others need long periods of time to process their feelings and move into new states of awareness. For those of us who perceive ourselves as moving quickly, it can be painful and exasperating to deal with someone else's slower pace. Yet, just like the tortoise and the hare, we all arrive at the same destination, together, eventually.
People who take their time with things are probably in the minority in most of the world today. We live in a time when speed and productivity are valued above almost anything else. Therefore, people who flow at a slower pace are out of sync with the world and are often pestered and prodded to go faster and do more. This can be not only frustrating but also counterproductive because the stress of being pushed to move faster than one is able to move actually slows progress. On the other hand, if a person's style is honored and supported, they will find their way in their own time and, just like the tortoise, they might just beat the speedier, more easily distracted person to the finish line.
It's important to remember that we are not in a race to get somewhere ahead of someone else, and it is difficult to judge by appearances whether one person has made more progress than another. Whether you count yourself among the fast movers or as one of the slower folks, we can all benefit from respecting the pace that those around us choose for themselves. This way, we can keep our eyes on our own journey, knowing that we will all end up together in the end.
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